AA (Attraction Artist)
A practitioner of the attractive arts. This title is inclusive of those calling themselves Pickup Artists (PUA’s), Venusian Artists, Players, Coquettes, Flirts, and anyone else who consciously employs technique for the purpose of creating attraction. Attraction is a catch all term for any effort to cause the attention of someone else to point in your direction and their interest to increase and emotions to harmonize with you.
AFC (Average Frustrated Chump)
PUA Jargon for someone unsuccessful at finding sexual or romantic relationships. We use the term SAP (Socially Awkward Person) instead.
ASD (Anti-Slut Defense)
This is a process (conscious or unconscious) on the part of some women, designed to protect them from the (real or imagined) threat of being labeled a “slut” or “easy” if they indulge their sexual desires, particularly with relative strangers. Attraction artists can learn how to disarm the ASD by providing plausible deniability, allowing the woman to feel that these were exceptional circumstances, and/or that she was seduced, swept off her feet, etc., and therefore can’t be held responsible for her actions. Ideally, though, the attraction artist would simply show the PIQ that there is potential for a lasting relationship (because, ideally, there would be!)
Attitude (test)
Often times a PIQ will throw up resistance without saying a word. This is a special kind of test in that it is often a straight rejection. Handling it well gives you a chance to impress the PIQ. This is often just a look or laughter.
Attractive Arts, the
A family of techniques designed to incite attraction in one or more persons, and to direct that attraction toward a specific party or parties.
Attraction Switch/Trigger
A “switch” that goes off in your PIQ that tells him/her that this person has survival and replication value. It is a primal, even biological reaction to certain triggers. Trigger examples: Masculine would be: protector of loved ones. For a Femme it would be: Loyalty.
The portion of yourself you consciously project to a PIQ  in order to generate interest in the rest of you. Your avatar should be a sample platter of all your most valuable and unique qualities, polished and shown off to their best advantage.
Body Rocking
The use of body language to indicate that the SSP might be leaving.
Cold Reading
The technique of making seemingly accurate statements about a person with little or no knowledge of them.
Compliance Test
A natural instinct in people to see how willing someone is to do something. This is sometimes a hoop meant to test someone’s caliber and passing is often not complying. Other times it is done to determine whether or not the interaction has reached a state of interest or comfort sufficient to begin escalating to bigger requests, such as asking for a phone number and so forth.
Connection Switch/Trigger
A “switch” that goes off in your PIQ that makes the PIQ feel that there is a growing emotional connection between you two and gives the comforting feeling that you are, in fact, willing to commit without asking for or offering any such commitment.
A principle of attraction referring to the arrangement of opposite elements (light vs. dark colors, rough vs. smooth textures, punk vs. preppy accessories, funny vs. serious, etc.) so as to create interest, dynamism, excitement and drama. This applies not only to the visual (i.e. an attraction artist‘s “look”), but also to behavior and personality. This is one of the core principles of The Attractive Arts.
Controlling Anchor
This is the creation of a relationship between yourself and your PIQ whereby you set yourself up as the one who has affected the PIQ ’s change the most. This is done by several methods. The most common of which is to get her to say yes to progressively more and more things through microcalibration and boldness. The other methods include creating a negative atmosphere artificially, or entering a negative atmosphere boldly and being the one to create a more positive atmosphere. For example, if you go into the set and they are already excited about you, by making them less excited before getting them excited again you may bring them back to the same level of excitement that they were already at, but the difference will be that the new level of excitement came from you, and they know it and that gives you value to them and they will more readily offer you control. This makes frame control, moving the set and so forth all that much easier.
Distancing Frame
An advanced technique employed by experienced attraction artists which allows them to use a line or a tactic that would normally be inappropriate or unsuccessful (too forward, too passé, too silly, too sentimental, etc.) while simultaneously distancing him/herself from the line or tactic. To accomplish this, an attraction artist might quote a line that s/he or someone else used at some other time, s/he might speak in the third person, or s/he might make it clear that s/he is simply playacting. Examples:
• “I don’t know what came over me, but I just looked her right in the eyes [looking deep into the PIQ’s eyes] and said, ‘I’ve been waiting my whole life for this moment.’ [artist holds for a beat, then breaks off suddenly and looks in another direction] It was crazy.”
• “I’ll bet people feel entitled to touch your hair. Am I right? They just walk right up and take a handful [taking a handful of hair] ‘Wow, your hair is amAAAAYYYzing! It’s so thick and curly and… [taking a whiff] ooooh, it even smells good!’ [dropping hair and giving distance] That’s gotta get seriously annoying.”
DHV (Demonstration of Higher Value)
Examples would be anything which shows accomplishments, resources, etc….
DLV (Demonstration of Lower Value)
Examples would be anything which shows weakness, social awkwardness, etc….
Dunning-Kruger effect
A common syndrome among SAP’s, unfortunately. This effect “is a cognitive bias in which an unskilled person makes poor decisions and reaches erroneous conclusions, but their incompetence denies them the metacognitive ability to realize their mistakes. The unskilled therefore suffer from illusory superiority, rating their own ability as above average, much higher than it actually is, while the highly skilled underrate their abilities, suffering from illusory inferiority.”
False Time Constraint
A statement made to communicate that he is in a hurry or going somewhere. It creates comfort because if he is leaving they won’t have to blow him off. It creates tension because they feel the need to give their attention suddenly or they won’t get any attention from the now safe Attraction Artist.
Flame, the
This is your positive, fun vibe you give off which adds energy and fun to the atmosphere. This is directly tied to being able to affect others with frame control.
Frame / Frame Control
A frame is the means by which humans understand what is occurring in a situation and what is appropriate. When someone walks in the room and stands behind a podium, the people in the audience are being put into a frame of “audience members.” Now, they know to be quiet, listen, clap, etc…. A SSP will control a frame, an example of this is when a SSP reframes everything the PIQ says as an IOI: “Woah, my name? Isn’t that kind of personal? Buy me a drink first…”.
Ghost, the
This is your comfort and integrity. It’s your ability to not be shaken by others or even affected by their charms. This is directly tied to others not being able to affect you with their frame control.
Holding Court
To hold the attention of a group, to be the center of attention.
Hoop Toss
A natural instinct in people to see how willing someone is to do something. This is sometimes a hoop meant to test someone’s caliber and passing is often not complying. Though complying done a little later in the encounter can often be done to acknowledge that trust has been earned. Other times it is done to determine whether or not the interaction has reached a state of interest or comfort sufficient to begin escalating to bigger requests, such as asking for a phone number and so forth. Examples: “Can you hold my purse.” or “I’d love a drink!”
Having elements which do not seem to fit or make logical sense. (See: Contrast)
IOD (Indicator of Disinterest)
An example would be avoiding eye contact, staring around the room, squinting eyes is usually an IOD.
IOI (Indicator of Interest)
An example would be a a bright smile and staring right at you, or asking you questions, a woman playing with her hair is usually an IOI.
Has to do with kinesthetic sensations and refers to using touch in order to accentuate emotional moments or statements. Anything from excitement to comforting. An SSP naturally just begins touching almost right away in a non sexual way and then as attraction grows touching becomes more often and more intimate.
LMR – Last Minute Resistance
The idea (formulated by the PUA community) that a woman will often put up resistance at the last minute, just before sex occurs. In truth this is an irony, as many PUA methods actually create this phenomenon. See “NONE – Not-ok no effect” on this page.
This is the act of identifying accurately your PIQ’s interest or lack of interest and giving the appropriate level of interest or lack of interest yourself at the correct time. It includes other aspects of the game, but the important aspect is that it is about accurately reading what is going on with the PIQ and timing in the interaction.
This is the action of starting a train of thought and then leaving a question open (preferably with the desire to know the answer being left in the PIQ) and then moving to another subject only to suddenly answer the question later.
Neg Theory
Neg theory states that by indicating that you are disinterested by playfully calling the PIQ out on something, then you allow the PIQ’s guard to drop and actually have a conversation with you. A good neg will not make a PIQ angry and defensive, but amused and relaxed.
NONE – Not-Okay No Effect
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Open Loop
The action of starting a story and leaving it unfinished or leaving a question unanswered. Most effective when open loop hints at something outrageous.
Conveyance of a story by bodily or facial movements.
The act of wearing something interesting and comment-worthy enough to make it easier for others to approach you.
PIQ (Person in Question)
The person or people in whom an attraction artist aims to inspire attraction. In PPP, the PIQ is referred to as the “target.”
This is the act of setting up a frame you are about to be caught with yourself. If you are caught using the same pick up line, you might say, “Well, I am a devilish pick up artist preying on unsuspecting women.” or “You caught me, I felt like coming over to talk to you and really just didn’t know what to say.” Or you can use it to frame the other person with whatever they were about to frame you with. Let’s say you bring someone a drink, you can say after handing them the drink, “Oh alright, it’s a little forward of you but I suppose you can have this one.”
PPP (Patriarchal PUA Parlance)
This is my term for certain militaristic vocabulary coined by the male-dominated PUA community. Examples include target, obstacle, shotgun neg, sniper neg, shock and awe, hired guns (etc.). PPP creates a male vs. female frame which is not only unnecessary; it is a hindrance to genuine, lasting romantic success. Rather than viewing “the game” as a competitive sport, I see it as collaborative play, the object of which is equal pleasure for all. In my opinion, if someone (attraction artist, PIQ, or friend of either) is not having fun, then the artist isn’t doing it right.
Provocative Question
A Provocative Question is one made to incite a reaction and usually to test how the SSP handles it. Some examples are, “Do you always use that line?” or “What’s wrong with you?”
Provocative Statement
A Provocative Statement is one made to incite a reaction and usually to test how the SSP handles it. It can frame someone, insult someone or just escalate the tone of the conversation. Some examples would be, “You’re quite the player” “That is an old shirt” or “I’m used to excitement!”
PUA (pick-up artist)
The word is fraught with connotations both good and bad.  When we use it, it’s just another word for an attraction artist or SSP; someone who is skilled in the art of seduction.
A person who is skilled in relating stories and anecdotes interestingly.
Body language indicating disinterest or a waning interest.
RRR (Relationship Risk Ratio)
A principle stating that the length of courtship should be in direct proportion to what is at stake. The more complex and long-lasting the desired relationship, the higher the stakes, and therefore the greater the need for a lengthened comfort phase. For example, a one-night-stand between two strangers involves very little complexity and relationship risk. Whereas a long term relationship, a relationship involving more than two people, or a relationship between two friends, would all involve a greater degree of complexity and therefore pose a higher relationship risk.
A group of people that the SSP approaches in order to attract either someone from that group or set up for attracting someone in the room.
SAP (Socially Awkward Person)
A Socially Awkward Person is a person who lacks the necessary skills to make other people comfortable with their presence and enjoy interacting with them.
SSP (Socially Savvy Person)
A Socially Savvy Person is someone who is calm, collected, confident, interesting and interested and who has a good grasp of and understanding of human emotion, a freedom with and control of their emotions and who can exert some of that control over others in a social setting. If afraid in a social situation, they will overcome that fear with playfulness and keep trying until it becomes comfortable. A SSP is always made, some grow that way naturally through upbringing and life experiences, others get that way through self study or coaching, such as The Attractive Arts.
Sound Spacing
A vocal tactic that employs the use of silence to create various effects. For example, leaving a pause in a story or phrase to create anticipation, speaking slowly to increase one’s relative value, or purposefully trailing off (leaving stories or even sentences unfinished) to create intrigue. For example, when you’re talking to an incredibly sexy… [pause]… oh hey, that reminds me of a great story….
S&R Value (Survival and Replication Value)
Value shown by the SSP to the PIQ which indicates that he would be a protector and provider and has good genes.
Testing is a natural response to interest and is done in order to verify the investment one is considering making in the person they are interested in. There are four types of tests: Hoop Toss or Compliance test, a Provocative Statement, a Provocative Question, and Attitude.
As a noun this refers to the person’s magnetism and the feeling they give to others. As a verb this refers to the SSP’s ability to match and add to the emotional harmonic of the group or person.